As we were

I’m sure this has happened to you as well: meeting an old friend you haven’t seen for quite some time, and you’re really excited about it!

Because when you last met; be it in school, travel, whatever; you had a blast and you can’t wait to recreate that moment. But, there’s one problem: the magic isn’t there anymore.

I have met a lot of people during my life, and something I have learned is that some people you will always be friends with, but there are others where things just don’t click anymore. And it’s not like you dislike each other or something, just that, at a certain point and place in time, you had everything in common, but when that context is taken away, so is the connections you you once felt.

And while it can be a bit disappointing, I think it’s ok: it happens. Let’s just cherish what we once had and the wonderful memories.

Let’s think about as we were.


  • Steven Clark says:

    I've had that a lot, actually. And the best you can take away from it is that you must have been way more tolerant as a teenager… you bar has significantly lifted.

    For example, now your conversation must include content. πŸ™‚

    Remember the beer conversation at 18… grunt grunt beer, where beer, grunt, guzzle guzzle burp. Beer good.

    Now, it just doesn't cut the mustard in a restaurant.

  • Robert Nyman says:


    Yes, things definitely do change… πŸ™‚

    Other things always stay the same, and that's nice to! Most of the time. πŸ™‚

  • Jeff Starr says:

    So true.. I experience this situation quite frequently. Letting it be and savoring shared experience is good advice. Thanks for this post — it resonates deeply.

  • Robert Nyman says:


    Thanks, I'm glad you could relate!

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